kahin kisi roz yun bhi hota
hamari halat tumhari hoti
jo raat hum ne guzaari mar ke
woh raat tum ne guzaari hoti
badi wafa se nibhayi tum ne,
hamaari thodi si
bewafai
hazaar raahein mud ke dekhein,
kahin se koi
sada na aai
Heard this in the morning.. 33 thousand feet above sea-level.Not sure which movie or album this is from.. The lyrics struck a chord.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Today, something dawned on me: I am not cut out for any group. I find it futile, this constant checking and correcting of your thoughts, words, cravings, so that you are in unison with the rest of them. How silly and hypocritical!
Ok, the above mentioned group falls under the "buddies" list where you're not required to bringforth anything to the table. You know, where you just sit back and chill and show an interest to watch the same movie, on the same evening and eat the same thing, at the same time as everybody else or stand a good chance of being the official "killjoy".
Well, this is about another group.
As for the argument that groups provide a safe haven for like-minded spirits who need support, most groups I have been to, are far from this. Neither do I understand the fabric of groupism nor do I want to mug it up.
For starters, you cannot make a group your therapist. If there are issues that need attention, seek professional help. If there's anything that's been eating you from inside, confide in a friend you trust or a close family member. I know how finding that little vent can be suffocating at times but do look around, there should be somebody capable of lending you support.
Speaking your heart out on your past exploits and secret fantasies to a group can often prove counter-productive. Especially, if they too are a bunch of clueless souls like you. People can be very rash with eachother's secrets. So beware who you are baring it all to.
Finally, a group is only as good as its weakest link. So, if you are in with someone who wouldn't hesitate to intimidate, stalk or sensationalize things to have their way, please do know, you have it coming!
I have been receiving mails from a recent group that I have been to and each one of it amazes me for the level to which educated, presumably sane and decent human beings are capable of falling.
These are basically a bunch of women who have been eachother's flames in the past, girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, acquaintances and ONS- well, you get the picture! And, ever since something went wrong somewhere, these charming ladies have been at eachother's throats, violating every code of friendship, shamelessly publicizing eachother's confidings to the whole group.
I have been to the group meeting only once for a few hours, well, even I get to read the details! And, I feel disgusted.
Sensibility and decency are qualities that you either have or you don't have. You cannot shove some random "guidelines to the group" down the throats of people and expect them to be, Presto!, civilized!
At the end of the day, people who really get you and like you will stick around no matter what. So why not just let the others go? This is not to say, go lock yourself in and be anti-social. But shouldn't we be a little careful about the people we let around us?
Why move like sheep in a group and tear eachother's heads off at the slightest provocation? Wasn't he saying the truth that someone who said- Travel light and you will cover long!
Ok, the above mentioned group falls under the "buddies" list where you're not required to bringforth anything to the table. You know, where you just sit back and chill and show an interest to watch the same movie, on the same evening and eat the same thing, at the same time as everybody else or stand a good chance of being the official "killjoy".
Well, this is about another group.
As for the argument that groups provide a safe haven for like-minded spirits who need support, most groups I have been to, are far from this. Neither do I understand the fabric of groupism nor do I want to mug it up.
For starters, you cannot make a group your therapist. If there are issues that need attention, seek professional help. If there's anything that's been eating you from inside, confide in a friend you trust or a close family member. I know how finding that little vent can be suffocating at times but do look around, there should be somebody capable of lending you support.
Speaking your heart out on your past exploits and secret fantasies to a group can often prove counter-productive. Especially, if they too are a bunch of clueless souls like you. People can be very rash with eachother's secrets. So beware who you are baring it all to.
Finally, a group is only as good as its weakest link. So, if you are in with someone who wouldn't hesitate to intimidate, stalk or sensationalize things to have their way, please do know, you have it coming!
I have been receiving mails from a recent group that I have been to and each one of it amazes me for the level to which educated, presumably sane and decent human beings are capable of falling.
These are basically a bunch of women who have been eachother's flames in the past, girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, acquaintances and ONS- well, you get the picture! And, ever since something went wrong somewhere, these charming ladies have been at eachother's throats, violating every code of friendship, shamelessly publicizing eachother's confidings to the whole group.
I have been to the group meeting only once for a few hours, well, even I get to read the details! And, I feel disgusted.
Sensibility and decency are qualities that you either have or you don't have. You cannot shove some random "guidelines to the group" down the throats of people and expect them to be, Presto!, civilized!
At the end of the day, people who really get you and like you will stick around no matter what. So why not just let the others go? This is not to say, go lock yourself in and be anti-social. But shouldn't we be a little careful about the people we let around us?
Why move like sheep in a group and tear eachother's heads off at the slightest provocation? Wasn't he saying the truth that someone who said- Travel light and you will cover long!
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